I will leave my husband unless he gives me another child

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN we got married, my husband knew I wanted three children and that it was a deal-breaker, but now he’s changed his mind. I met him when I was 23 and he was 34 but he said he wanted three kids too. We dated for a year and then he proposed. We waited ten […]

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN we got married, my husband knew I wanted three children and that it was a deal-breaker, but now he’s changed his mind.

I met him when I was 23 and he was 34 but he said he wanted three kids too. We dated for a year and then he proposed.

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We waited ten years to have our first child, then three years later we had our second.

Five years on, I am ready to have our third but he refuses. He says we are too old, and he’s done with nappies and night feeds.

I have told him I want a divorce, but he just says I am being selfish for wanting to throw away our lovely kids’ lives for another baby.

I am not selfish, I was honest from the start.

DEIDRE SAYS: There’s been a lot of water under the bridge since you married. He has every right to change his mind.

Yes, you were honest about what you wanted, but as a married couple you must now negotiate over your family’s size. It’s likely your vision of an ideal family taps into something to do with your own family dynamic. How many siblings do you have, I wonder?

Think about the welfare of the children you have and talk to a counsellor before making any drastic move – see bacp.co.uk.

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