My son’s divorce has turned my grandson into an angry eight-year-old

DEAR DEIDRE: OUR grandson has become a highly strung and angry eight-year-old, torn between his dad and his mum. My wife and I don’t know how best to help.

We are in our fifties. My son and his partner split four years ago when they were both 30. They have joint custody but our grandson has told us he doesn’t like staying at his mum’s.

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During the first lockdown he spent so much time with her it turned him into a very angry lad.

His mother admits she has no maternal instincts and even told him she wishes he had never been born, but she won’t let him live with his dad full-time nor accept help from us.

We were so worried about the change in our grandson we contacted his school.

He is having pastoral care but his mum told him she would throw him out if he complained about her. My son despairs about what he can do.

DEIDRE SAYS: It is so tough on a child when one parent uses them to hurt the other. Keep being calm and loving so your grandson knows he can rely on you.

He probably lets fly around you and his dad because he feels safe with you compared to being with his mum.

See youngminds.org.uk for guidance on dealing with a child’s angry behaviour. And you and your son can talk to the group’s parents helpline on 0808 802 5544.

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