Sexpert reveals how long sex should really last – and the answer may shock you
A SEX EXPERT has revealed how long sex should really last for, and the answer may surprise you. Nadia Bokody, from Australia, revealed the question had come up with a previous partner, after she was happy to stop after 20 minutes, whereas he wanted to go for hours. Taking to News.com.au, Nadia said: “An hour-and-a-half […]
A SEX EXPERT has revealed how long sex should really last for, and the answer may surprise you.
Nadia Bokody, from Australia, revealed the question had come up with a previous partner, after she was happy to stop after 20 minutes, whereas he wanted to go for hours.
Taking to News.com.au, Nadia said: “An hour-and-a-half in, I terminated our sex-a-thon.
“An all-night bang-fest may have been vaguely alluring in my 20s, but post-30, the only prolonged physical activity my body’s up for is lifting Doritos to my mouth while watching Marie Kondo in my Snuggie.”
Nadia did some research and found a 1948 study by sex researcher Alfred Kinsey who concluded three quarters of men finish after two minutes.
However, she found a 2008 paper published in The Journal Of Sexual Medicine that said the average sexual encounter lasts between three and seven minutes, and another study that found a range from just 33 seconds to almost an hour.
She added: “Interestingly, while research overwhelmingly indicates women require more time than men to orgasm during partnered sex, it’s typically men, not women, who report wanting nookie to last longer.
“This may, in part at least, be due to the influence of porn.
“Research suggests at least a quarter of young people aged 18 to 24 rely on it as a form of sex education.
“And given its emphasis on enduring erections and marathon sex sessions, it’s plausible a man might feel he’s come up short if he hasn’t surpassed the 10-minute mark.”
Nadia added: “In truth, there’s no such thing as normal when it comes to sex.
“For some of us, it lasts all night. But for many also, it’s wrapped up in time to get into our Snuggies, watch some Marie Kondo, and get the hell to sleep.”
A recent viral TikTok video, which racked up four million hits, showed a woman asking “How long is sex supposed to last?”
In the clip, the woman says: “I was talking to these young girls here, and they were like, ‘If he ain’t going for an hour..’ A HOUR?!
“Who is having sex for that long? Just straight intercourse? For an hour? No, ma’am. Fifteen, 20 minutes, tops. After that, get the f**k off of me, Sir.”
People were quick to chime in with their views on preferred sex times, with one saying: “After 15 minutes I’m making grocery lists.”
However, one said: “I’m sad for all of you. Been with my man 20 years and we go hours. Like, two or three hours, and have a blast.”
So what do you think?
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Previously, Nadia revealed the common lie told in the bedroom which is ‘hurting women’.
Meanwhile, a sexpert shared the four mistakes we’re all making in the bedroom and why you need to focus on ‘afterplay’.