I can’t compete with the teenage girls my partner ogles on the internet

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner and I are both in our mid-60s but he ogles teenage girls on the internet – and it makes me jealous. We’ve been together for eight years. Our relationship is happy and loving, and he treats me very well. But he does like looking at pornography online. When I look at […]

DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner and I are both in our mid-60s but he ogles teenage girls on the internet – and it makes me jealous.

We’ve been together for eight years. Our relationship is happy and loving, and he treats me very well.

But he does like looking at pornography online. When I look at his history, it is always very young women – nothing dodgy, but very youthful.

At my age, I’m hardly in my prime, although people say I still look good.

But I can’t compete with 19-year-olds, with their long, thick hair, taut bodies and high, full breasts.

It makes me wonder if my boyfriend really finds me attractive or if he’d rather be with someone younger.

DEIDRE SAYS: Finding much younger women attractive certainly does not mean that your boyfriend doesn’t fancy you, too.

These girls are just a fantasy for him – like an older woman admiring Robert Pattinson.

But if you are finding his porn habit upsetting, you need to talk to him about how it’s making you feel and get his reassurance.

My support pack, Standing Up For Yourself, should help you to do this.

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