A colleague half my age keeps flirting with me – do I go for it?

DEAR DEIDRE: A GIRL at work flirts with me, but she’s half my age and I’m not sure what to do. I’m a 44-year-old man and feel very attracted to her. But she can only be in her very early 20s. I’m pretty sure she likes me too because she treats me differently to our […]

DEAR DEIDRE: A GIRL at work flirts with me, but she’s half my age and I’m not sure what to do.

I’m a 44-year-old man and feel very attracted to her. But she can only be in her very early 20s.

I’m pretty sure she likes me too because she treats me differently to our other male colleagues.

I catch her making eye contact with me across the room, then looking away coyly, and sometimes she plays with her hair in a flirtatious manner.

She says hello when we pass in the corridor and we make small talk.

Should I ask her out or would that be totally inappropriate?

DEIDRE SAYS: Perhaps she does like you, or maybe she’s just a big flirt.

Getting to know her as a friend will help you to clarify the situation.

A 20-year age gap is big. With any relationship it’s important to have plenty in common and this is even more important with a large age gap.

And as you work together, things could become awkward if you rush in.

Make sure you have the foundation of a good friendship before taking anything further.

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