Woman reveals the question you should ask yourself before getting married – it can stop you from making a mistake

MARRIAGE proposals mark a time for couples to decide whether they want to take their relationship to the next level. Oftentimes, people become overwhelmed with excitement and are quick to say “yes” to the sparkling ring in front of them. But one woman, Laura High, said you should think long and hard about what your […]

MARRIAGE proposals mark a time for couples to decide whether they want to take their relationship to the next level.

Oftentimes, people become overwhelmed with excitement and are quick to say “yes” to the sparkling ring in front of them.

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A divorcee offered some sage advice for couples who believe they’re ready for the big commitment.[/caption]

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She said if you ask yourself this question, you may avoid a big mistake[/caption]

But one woman, Laura High, said you should think long and hard about what your future might look like before agreeing to walk down the aisle.

Posting to her TikTok account, she began: “No joke I would’ve emptied my bank account ten times over to get this advice before I married my ex-husband.

“So, look at your person—he, she, they, them—exactly as they are right now.”

She advised her followers to: “take away all potential, all dreams, all expectations, all of the promises that they have made to you.”

“So only see them as they are in this exact moment,” she went on.

And here’s the big question:

“Now pretend you have a kid exactly like that.

“And if your gut reaction is not happiness and pride, do not marry that person,” she said sternly.

In the comments, she explained the purpose of this practice:

“I’m getting a lot of people asking me in the comment section, ‘But what if I don’t want kids?’ Y’all are aware this is just a thought exercise to see things from a different perspective.

“But if that doesn’t work for you, ok. That’s cool too. Live your truth boo.”

Viewers had fun with the idea:

“I just did this and concluded that I need to marry them right now,” said one.

“Oh my god as a divorce lawyer this is amazing,” added another.

A third wrote: “Such solid advice, biggest mistake women make is expecting a man to change.”

Other users offered additional tips:

“Go on a trip first. If you don’t enjoy traveling with them, do not marry them,” recommended one.

“I’ve also heard it put like: ‘Would you be happy for a loved one if they told you they had a relationship exactly like yours?’” added another.  

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The clip garnered over 1.5 million views and racked up thousands of supportive comments[/caption]