I am scared my boyfriend will find out how many guys I really slept with

DEAR DEIDRE: I AM terrified about my boyfriend finding out about my true “body count”. We have both lived in the same village for the past ten years and it’s the sort of place where everyone knows each other. We’ve been together for two years and while he thinks I’ve slept with three other people, […]

DEAR DEIDRE: I AM terrified about my boyfriend finding out about my true “body count”.

We have both lived in the same village for the past ten years and it’s the sort of place where everyone knows each other.

We’ve been together for two years and while he thinks I’ve slept with three other people, I have actually slept with seven.

I’m 25 and he’s 31. I now feel ashamed of the three wild years I enjoyed before we got together and wish I could turn back time.

He has quizzed me non- stop about my previous relationships and the three he knows about – or those I have confirmed are really only the tip of the iceberg.

I’m terrified he will find out the truth.

DEIDRE SAYS: There is absolutely nothing for you to be ashamed of.

You had relationships before you met your boyfriend, none of which are relevant today.

Your past is exactly that – your past. And your boyfriend needs to stop dwelling on it.

It is his jealous behaviour which gives far greater cause for concern.

He may have been let down badly by someone he trusted in the past, which might be the cause of his jealousy. That is not to say it’s acceptable.

He will still need some help dealing with these feelings.

I’m sending you my support pack Dealing With Jealousy, which will show you both where you can get some support.

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