I refuse to walk my daughter down the aisle with her stepdad – I want her to choose between us
A MAN has revealed he refuses to walk his daughter down the aisle – as she wants him to do so with her stepdad.
Posting on Reddit, the father of the bride explained his 22-year-old daughter is getting married – and wants to involve both her dad figures.
The bride’s stepdad married her mother when she was five and her dad admits “because of circumstances that I couldn’t be in her life for long.”
He only reconnected with his daughter when she was 16 – but is now insisting she chooses between him and her other dad.
The man explains: “Her mom always throws in my face that (my daughter)’s stepdad is ‘the real/legal parent’ and has always been to (my daughter).
“But she knows about the bond I have with (my daughter) or the things I’d gone through in the past so I ignore her judgemental remarks.”
The daughter is getting married in February, but her plans have caused friction in the family.
Her dad said: “I was taken back when she told me she was considering having me AND her stepdad walk her down the aisle.
“I went to have a conversation with her to talk about how uncomfortable I was with this idea.
“She talked about how her stepdad played huge part in her life and how she wanted to honor that by including him.
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“I told her of course and I absolutely won’t invalidate her feelings or deny how much of a good influence her stepdad’s been but, I just don’t feel comfortable with it.
“I told her it’d be ok if I was just a guest there, but she said she wants me to be part of this so bad.
“I said it’s either me or her stepdad because there is no way I’m doing this with him.
“She thought that was petty but it wasn’t, she got upset saying it wasn’t okay of me to put her in this position and make her choose and force her hand but really, ultimately, the choice is hers so how am I forcing her hand?
“She complained about how I was ruining her wedding and making it about my resentment towards her stepdad.
“The argument escalated to the point where I said I won’t come to the wedding if she continues to force the issue.”
The disagreement has escalated, with the dad continuing: “Her mom contacted me calling me selfish, jealous, spiteful and whatnot claiming I was willing to hurt (our daughter)’s feelings out of spite just because she dared show appreciation for the man who stepped up and was more of parent to her more than I’ll ever be.”
Now his daughter isn’t returning his calls and her fiance told the dad “she is upset by the fact I put my feelings above hers and disrespected her stepdad by asking her to choose between us.
“He advised me to do this one thing for her since it’s important but I’m feeling uneasy even thinking about so I don’t think I’ll ever be okay with it.”
People were devastated for the bride in the comments, especially as she is clearly trying to mend their relationship.
Many think her “manchild” dad doesn’t deserve the honour of being in the wedding party.
One wrote: “She’s 22 and he came back into her life when she was 16. Pal, I wouldn’t have invited you to my wedding even if you are biologically my father. Bye, Felicia!”
While a second said: “I’d hardly call him a father. He just recently stepped in”.
And a third wrote: “Notice how the a**hole conveniently leaves out the details of why he was AWOL for sixteen years…”
Another commenter slated: “Sounds to me like Chloe’s trash is taking itself out.”
And a fifth added: “Got like 3 sentences in before I was like ‘yeah you’re a sh*tty dad.”
One commenter said: “Anyone with half a brain knows that if you haven’t raised your kid, you won’t be first pick for all the parent ‘jobs’ later on.
“It’s a kindness to even be invited and put into consideration for that role.
“Yet, there’s always this one a**hole who thinks they can just buzz back in and do all the ‘fun stuff’, like showing off what a wonderful daughter someone else raised.”
While a second slammed: “Given how this a**holes acts, I’m surprised she even allowed him back into her life at 16.
“He gave up his rights to her since the stepdad is the ‘legal’ parent. This guy doesn’t deserve his daughter. I hope she’s okay and can just cut him off now. He clearly just sees her as some sort of trophy.”
And a third said: “Poor (daughter) probably agonized for weeks over how she could include both bio and stepdad because she values rebuilding her relationship with bio dad.
“She should take him up on his initial offer, have stepdad walk her down the aisle and have bio dad as a guest. If he doesn’t want to share, he doesn’t get a piece.”
Yesterday, one bridezilla revealed how she’s uninviting her nephew from her wedding as he’ll take the attention away from her.