I’m scared to approach women so I hire escorts as my plus-ones

DEAR DEIDRE: BECAUSE I am too shy to approach women, I book escorts instead. I would really like to settle down and start a family with someone, but the thought of approaching women in bars and clubs is terrifying. And don’t get me started on dating apps. I am 27 and have been single all […]

DEAR DEIDRE: BECAUSE I am too shy to approach women, I book escorts instead.

I would really like to settle down and start a family with someone, but the thought of approaching women in bars and clubs is terrifying. And don’t get me started on dating apps.

I am 27 and have been single all my life. I’ve been on a few dates here and there, but always end up in the friend zone.

A couple of years ago, I needed a date for a work event, so I hired an escort.

It was a really fun night, and all my male colleagues took me way more seriously when they saw an attractive woman on my arm.

But now I routinely hire an escort every time I want female company.

I know it can’t continue but I don’t know where to start when it comes to dating.

DEIDRE SAYS: Dating can be very daunt­ing, but also really fun.

Don’t focus on trying to meet people in bars and clubs. Generally, these aren’t the best places to find someone for a long-term relationship.

Dating apps have their challenges too – it can be hard to discover people looking for the same things as you.

The strongest relationships have a basis in friendship, so make an effort to meet new people and join clubs.

This may also help to boost your self-esteem.

Meetup.com lists local opportunities to meet people with similar interests.

I’m also sending you my pack, Finding The Right Partner For You.

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