I’m a sexpert and a smaller penis doesn’t have to mean bad sex – a ‘sleeve’ can do the trick

SEX is supposed to be enjoyable, but quite often a lot of pressure can be placed on the size of a man’s penis. Many people believe that only men with larger todgers can have successful sex, but is that really the case? It takes two to tango and experts say that there are workarounds couples […]

SEX is supposed to be enjoyable, but quite often a lot of pressure can be placed on the size of a man’s penis.

Many people believe that only men with larger todgers can have successful sex, but is that really the case?

It takes two to tango and experts say that there are workarounds couples can try to help nudge along what happens beneath the sheets.

Sexual health expert Dr Michael Reitano said that having enjoyable sex is all about focussing on the positives.

“From a functioning point of view, the size of a man’s penis is the least significant aspect of their sexual capacity to provide a partner with the pleasure they desire.”

He added that it’s key to focus on sex acts that can be done, rather than those that can’t.

It’s also important to understand that not everyone will orgasm from penetrative sex alone, with some people enjoying satisfaction from the fingers, mouth and toys.

Certified master sexpert at Bedbible Isbelle Uren, said there’s no definition of what is classified as too small, but if you find you aren’t getting enough stimulation during penetrative sex, there are some great options to add a little length, girth, or extra stimulation.

She did however, say that a penis sleeve could help for those who are a little less well endowed.

“A penis sleeves slip over the penis and add more length, and girth, and are sometimes textured for extra stimulation.

“They come in a wide range of sizes, styles, and materials, but I would recommend looking for one that’s made of silicone as it’s the safest option.”

Research into the aid has previously found that they can preserve an erection during intercourse.

The average penis is around 5.16 inches and a sleeve can sometimes help extend this.

Initially they were designed to help men with erectile dysfunction, and while they are still used for that reason, they are now primarily used as a sex toy.

Isabelle explained that if you do want to continue with penetrative sex then there are different ways you can create a ‘tighter fit’.

“Firstly, you can squeeze your thighs together or cross your legs over during penetrative sex.

“You can also use a sex positioning pillow or a regular pillow under your hips to change the angle of your pelvis to create a tighter feeling or more stimulation against the front wall of the vagina.

“Another option is to use a C-shape couple’s vibrator, which is worn inside the vagina during penetrative sex and has a section to stimulate the clitoris — I love the We-Vibe Chorus”.

LENGHTY ISSUE

But having a small penis isn’t the only thing that people might struggle with and Isabelle said length might also be a road block for some couples.

She said that if your partner’s penis is too long, you might find that the head of their penis bangs into your cervix, which can be very painful. 

In order to make sex enjoyable, she said you can try silicone rings, such as the Ohnut that sit around the penis and act as a barrier that prevents your partner thrusting too deeply.

Not only that, but you should also experiment with different positions, she added.

“Sex positions where your partner thrusts into you are more likely to end up in pain, as no matter how good their intentions are, it’s almost impossible for them to know how deep they can go.

“If you are on top, you control the movements and can better control how deep your partner’s penis goes.

“Positions, like spooning or the coital alignment technique, are great because less of their penis is inside you”, she said.