My fiancée has called off our wedding after finding out about my stupid affair

DEAR DEIDRE: MY fiancée and I were due to marry this summer but she called it off after she found out about my stupid affair.

It was a huge mistake and, to be honest, I still don’t know why I did it.

I think I just liked the attention and the fact it distracted me from the stress of wedding planning.

I’m 39 and my fiancée’s 32.

She found out about the affair when she was doing the laundry and spotted lipstick on my shirt and underwear.

By the time I got home from work, she’d packed up my things and dumped them on the drive.

She’s refused to speak to me since.

I’m heartbroken.

She’s my whole world. I’ve tried telling her that in voicemails, texts and even handwritten letters.

What else can I do to persuade her to give me a second chance?

DEIDRE SAYS:  This might be hard for you to hear but if she insists your relationship is over there isn’t much you can do to make her change her mind.

Harassing her won’t help either.

She will only resent you more.

To help you get over the break-up and work out why you cheated – as this is rarely done for no reason – I suggest getting some relationship counselling through relate.org.uk.