What is a sexual surrogate?
SEX workers are not always hired for pleasure, but sometime for more series reasons such as to help with deep intimacy issues. These workers are called sex surrogates and here is what you need to know about them. What are sex surrogates? Sex surrogates help men who have an intense fear of intimacy, and are […]
SEX workers are not always hired for pleasure, but sometime for more series reasons such as to help with deep intimacy issues.
These workers are called sex surrogates and here is what you need to know about them.
What are sex surrogates?
Sex surrogates help men who have an intense fear of intimacy, and are too scared to pursue relationships, to grow in confidence.
They use intimate touch and intercourse to help heal a whole range of problems, both sexual and otherwise.
The surrogates don’t work in brothels or put up sex ads— rather, clients can be referred by their psychologists to help work through their issues.
Often sex surrogates are trained at a clinic and may go on seeing their clients for months or even years, depending on the treatment.
How does sex surrogacy work?
Sex surrogacy work is embraced in many countries around the world, although it’s currently not very mainstream.
Before getting started, both parties will be tested for STIs, they must consent to using contraception and will often meet in a public place to get comfortable in each other’s presence.
An Australian “sex surrogate” told News.com.au: “Sessions, particularly first ones, start awkwardly.
“The men are nervous, often struggling to even make eye contact because even locking eyes with a woman leaves them crippled with shame.
“The first time, we just sit and talk, practising holding eye contact and discussing why that makes them uncomfortable.
“For most of my clients, even the language surrounding intimacy is difficult.
“We then progress to simple touch in the next session.
“I touch an arm, or a back, nothing wild and sexy — it’s about learning to recognise when touch feels good and relaxing and enjoying that touch.”
Then the lessons move on to getting past the shame of masturbation.
She said: “This is a beauteous shift — when a man can masturbate without embarrassment.
“Once masturbation is mastered, anything can happen.
“One client in his 30s told his therapist he had never seen or touched female genitalia.
“He requested to explore mine.
“It wasn’t about pleasure or learning how to please a woman — he just wanted to explore something so mysterious to him through touch.
“Once he had, his intimacy problems suddenly didn’t seem so insurmountable.
“This is life-changing work and I take great pleasure in helping people step into their sexual and intimate power.”
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Is sex surrogacy a form of psychosexual therapy?
Sex surrogacy pairs up patients with trained sexual professionals, so they can confront issues such as anxiety, PTSD and erectile dysfunction.
Sometimes it will take place for people who have physical disabilities, autism and schizophrenia.
A sex surrogate helps to put into practice the work that a psychosexual therapist or psychologist does with a client.
One works on understanding the mental blocks, and the other approaches the physical.