My husband was arrested for downloading indecent images – do I tell our son?

DEAR DEIDRE: I WAS woken in the early hours by the police knocking on my door to arrest my husband for downloading indecent images of children.

I’m 45 and he’s 42. We have a son who is at university but is home for the summer.

I’ve told him that Dad was being questioned over running a red light and driving erratically but I can’t keep this quiet for ever.

My husband has always had an eye for young women.

I could see it when we’d sit on the beach on holiday.

I don’t know what will become of him but he’s out on bail at the moment.

I don’t even feel I can stay in this neighbourhood.

I don’t know what to do.

DEIDRE SAYS: If your husband is guilty of downloading images, which are classed as Category A, then he will almost certainly go to prison.

If this is the case, it will be best to be honest with your son about what is going on.

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When you are ready, confide in a family member you can trust, to help support you through the next few months.

You can also find help in deciding where you go from here through the Prisoners’ Families organisation (prisonersfamilies.org, 0808 808 2003), which can provide practical information and emotional support.