I’m desperate to have a baby but my girlfriend says we’re too young

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M desperate to start a family, but my girlfriend is adamant that we’re still too young.

I’m 22, my girlfriend’s 20 and we’ve been dating for just over three years.

When I’ve thought about the future, I have always known I wanted to be a young dad.

I love the idea of growing up with my kids, ideally two boys and a girl, and going on all these crazy adventures together.

My parents had me relatively late, when they were in their mid-40s.

I had a loving childhood, but I really want to be more involved in my kids’ lives than they were.

My girlfriend knows she wants to be a mum but says we need to wait.

She’s insisting on finishing university and thinks we should spend a few more years saving first.

But I feel like we’re wasting time.

How do I get her on board?

DEIDRE SAYS: I can understand how much you want to start a family but do think very carefully about it.

If your girlfriend doesn’t feel ready, I’m afraid you can’t convince her, and it would be unwise to try.

It might be better to wait another few years to save some money and ensure your relationship is strong enough.

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