Vanessa Feltz calls police on vile troll who turned out to be cheating ex-fiancé Ben Ofoedu’s lover
VANESSA Feltz learned her fiance was cheating when his lover trolled her daughter online on Christmas Day – and was forced to call the police.
Her daughter Allegra Kurer said the family was devastated to learn about Ben Afoedu’s behaviour, which was uncovered due to vile comments left online.
Allegra, 37, revealed that she was sent messages on Instagram which were so threatening, they have called the police in.
She explained she and sister Saskia, 34, received cruel messages about Vanessa, 60, on Christmas Day.
Allegra said: “It was on Christmas Day, of all days. We were all together as a family, but Ben was away in pantomime, when the messages appeared via Instagram.
“Until that moment we were having a really lovely time, the children were having a lovely time, so for us to just receive that via a social media account was the most dreadful shock.
“It was anonymous, and of course it revealed lots that we didn’t know — but it was also very abusive and extremely hurtful.
“But then you have to think ‘Gosh do we disrupt Christmas lunch, do we wait til Christmas is finished?’
“We don’t keep things from each other in our family and so we knew we had to share that with mum.
“But do you do that while presents are being opened, while the children are looking to see if Santa has come, while everyone is singing carols and having a lovely time?
“It was just absolutely ghastly, not to mention the nature of the specific messages, which were so horrid. Vile, abusive. Extremely upsetting.”
Lawyer Allegra added: “We waited a bit — it just felt like we couldn’t do it right there and then in the middle of Christmas Day when mum was having such a lovely time with her grandchildren.
“But that’s not what we ever want to do — we tell each other things and we share things with each other in our family. We are very close.
“So when it came to sitting down and telling her the truth, it just felt horrible that it had been brought on our family, particularly at that time of year, by some anonymous troll.
“Even worse now that we find out it was Ben who had brought that to us — and his betrayal.
“There was no name or identity attached, but sadly there was enough information in the messages to know that what was being said about Ben was true — alongside all the vitriol.
“The only way to find out what was going on was to get the police involved, which is not a situation I ever expected to be in for myself or my family.”
The Sun on Sunday revealed how Vanessa had made the decision to end her 16-year engagement with Ben — part of 1990s dance act Phats and Small — after discovering he had been unfaithful.
Vanessa, an agony aunt, said she had been forced to “take her own advice” by ending the relationship after he broke her trust.
She said: “I feel incredibly sad, disappointed and shocked and all of those horrible things. I feel terribly humiliated, but also full of resolve.”
Vanessa met Ben in 2005, having divorced in 2000 from surgeon Michael Kurer — Allegra and Saskia’s father — following claims of cheating.
Ben had become an integral part of Vanessa’s family, with her four grandchildren calling him Grandpa Ben and Allegra and Saskia fully accepting him as Vanessa’s partner.