My biggest sexual fantasy is a threesome but girlfriend won’t consider it

DEAR DEIDRE: MY biggest sexual fantasy is to have a threesome with my girlfriend but she won’t even consider it. 

I can’t understand why she’s so reluctant. It’s fair to say that we’ve always been sexually adventurous.

So why is this where she draws the line?

I’m 28, she’s 27 and we’ve been together for three years. 

Since we started dating I have always told her that a threesome is something I really wanted to try. I loved the idea of her sharing me with another woman. 

She always  said that perhaps it would happen one day.  Yet three years later that day still hasn’t arrived. 

It’s putting  a strain on our relationship because I can’t get the idea out of my mind.

What should I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: While a threesome may be one of your sexual fantasies, it may be that it isn’t one of hers. 

It could be that she is too afraid to tell you she doesn’t want to do it. She might  be worried about disappointing you so instead is putting it off.

The last thing you want to do is force her into it – nobody should feel pressured into doing something sexual that they don’t want.

There are other ways of spicing things up without bringing in third parties and my support pack 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex explains further.

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