I refuse to let my married brother bring a plus-one to my wedding – he thinks it’s unfair but people say I’m right
A BRIDE has refused to let her married brother bring a plus-one to her wedding.
Despite her brother’s protests, people agreed the bride made the right choice seeing the plus-one wasn’t his wife.
The anonymous bride u/Throwbridezilla shared her dilemma in a forum.
She explained her brother’s wife and her family has had tension over the years: “She has been very snooty with our family because she comes from a wealthier background,” she said.
On top of being rude to her parents, the bride explained her brother’s wife has said “mean things to my sister’s kids,” and even prevented her brother from visiting family over the holidays.
“The list is endless. My brother has always defended her and even fought with the rest of the family for her,” she said.
Despite the constant drama, the bride still made an attempt to invite the wife to the wedding but to no avail.
“She texted back thanking me for the invite, telling me it would be too hard for her to attend with everything that had happened and that she couldn’t pretend. I thought it was typical of her,” she said.
Later, her brother ended up calling her to request a plus-one anyways, to her surprise.
“Turns out he and sister-in-law have been separated for a few months because their marriage has been on the rocks,” she said.
“I think there was some infidelity on his part as well because he wanted to bring his new girlfriend to my wedding.”
Reflecting on the new development, the bride declined his request in order to pay respects to her nephew.
“I just don’t think it’s fair to her or my nephew to be replaced just like that in a family gathering,” she reasoned.
“My nephew won’t be attending the wedding but I’d like to show him the pictures later. How would it make him feel?”
Although her brother thought the situation was unfair, people took to the comments to share their thoughts on her decision.
Many overwhelmingly agreed with her: “New girlfriend is gonna have to sit this one out,” said one commenter.
“If YOU didn’t know they were separated, neither will anyone else and that’s way too much drama for a wedding.”
Some thought she deserved more credit for the way she handled the situation: “Not a Bridezilla. Kudos to you for showing respect to your SIL when you don’t like her, and she’s treated you poorly,” said one.