How do I tell my lovely wife I want to use nipple clamps on her

DEAR DEIDRE: HOW do I tell my wife I’d like to try nipple clamps on her?

I’m 43 years old and we’ve been together for 14 years and married for ten.

Recently, I’ve been wanting to spice up our sex life and thought about her wearing nipple clamps.

I’ve looked at a few online and have begun imagining her wearing them.

I’ve even watched a few porn videos featuring them and find them a real turn-on. The last thing I want is to hurt my wife, so how can I reassure her?

I’m worried about how she’ll take the request and don’t want to upset her in any way.

DEIDRE SAYS: Nobody should be forced to do anything sexually against their will so if she doesn’t want to do this then you need to accept this.

You mustn’t pressurise her.

If your wife is interested in trying this kink, it’s important to make sure she’s comfortable during the process.

Read my support pack 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex, which has other ideas on how to add excitement to your sex life.

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