My boyfriend’s world revolves around him

DEAR DEIDRE: I have always felt that my boyfriend is in his own world.

He often stares right through me when I’m trying to talk to him.

So much of our life is on his terms – when we have sex, what we watch on TV, what we eat.

I often wonder what is going through his mind but he never opens up and I feel so lonely.

When we’re with friends he’s the life and soul of the party but avoids proper conversations with me.

I put up with him ogling other women when we’re out. It drives me nuts.

I am 45 and my boyfriend is 41. We have been together for five years.

Ever since we first got together I’ve had this weird feeling that he isn’t really there.

I have told him that if he doesn’t want to be with me, I would understand and move on.

All he says is that he does try, but it’s not true. I have had enough.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s not surprising you’ve had enough.

He may have had parents who made him feel as though the world revolved around him. Or he felt ignored so now he puts himself first.

Whatever the reason, it’s important he starts to make an effort for you.

Spell out what you need to change – that when you talk to him he listens and takes an interest perhaps?

Tell him that you’re unhappy and unless he shows you he wants to change that you’ll need to think about moving on.

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