Every man I meet loses interest after bedding me
DEAR DEIDRE: Why can’t I go to bed with a guy without getting emotionally involved?
I’ve been let down yet again by some man who thinks it’s OK to waste my time.
I’m a single woman of 25 and recently I was on holiday with a friend.
We walked past a bar where some blokes were drinking and dancing. They were all very good-looking – tall, blond and Dutch.
One of them held his hand out to me, pulled me inside and asked me and my friend to join them. We had a few drinks then went back to their villa with them.
I had such a lovely time. The guy who had taken my hand led me into his bed. He said he was 29.
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We had sex and I thought he was special. I talked to him about visiting him in the Netherlands.
When I left the country, I texted to say that he would hear from me soon.
Since then I have tried to make contact but I’ve heard nothing. My friends are longing to meet him.
It’s now been five weeks and I don’t think he will ever return my messages.
I wish I could be more like men, have sex with somebody and it mean nothing. I hate myself for allowing myself to be vulnerable.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry you feel let down. Remember that how you behave on an initial date is the first impression you give someone.
If a guy asks for sex within hours of meeting and you agree, he will assume that you have the same mindset.
Beware of these red flags. If you want a relationship and not short-term casual sex, make a different call and walk away.
You know what you want so don’t settle for less. Weed out the guys who aren’t right for you and you will spot who is special when they want to know more about your personality.