My husband’s political choices aren’t the only reason I’m seeing red
DEAR DEIDRE: The man I have shared my life with for the last ten years has told me he is spending Easter with another woman.
We used to have our angry moments — but then he joined the Labour Party and I’m really seeing red.
He’s now out campaigning with this woman several days a week and they have become too close for my liking.
I’m 59 and he’s 58. This woman is 39, and was in the same school year as my daughter.
The only explanation can be they are having sex — or he wants to.
She’s a divorcee with two teenage daughters and lives in the neighbouring town.
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I thought it strange that this woman, who knows about me, would invite only him for Easter, but then a thought struck me.
Political parties use the electoral roll when campaigning and my partner is still registered at the address of his late father, a house he inherited but rents out.
This woman may believe we have split and that my partner now lives there. I’m thinking about calling her. I don’t want to cause trouble but want her to understand my partner’s taken.
Meanwhile, my partner has taken her to meet both my youngest daughter and his family, who all think I’m fussing about nothing.
I’ve told him if their relationship carries on like this, he’ll have to leave. I just know an affair will start soon, if it hasn’t already.
He told me he “did not want this trouble in his life” when I confronted him. He thinks staying with her over Easter would make a nice change.
I can’t believe his lack of consideration for my feelings. All this has quite put me off ever voting Labour.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You have my vote when it comes to his behaviour. He does sound to have completely disregarded your feelings, but please don’t jump to conclusions about this other woman.
You may have put two and two together and made five. Talking to him is the only way you will find out what is really going on.
It does seem unlikely that anyone planning an affair would introduce the other woman to their partner’s daughter.
Resist the temptation to contact her but do talk to your partner about how transparent he’s been about you and his living arrangements.
If he won’t address any issues then you are within your rights to tell him to leave, but only give him an ultimatum if you’re prepared to follow it through.