My wedding guest’s RSVP was so disrespectful, but I had to laugh at her audacity
A BRIDE was shocked by a guest’s RSVP response to their wedding invitation.
Although she initially found the “audacity refreshingly hilarious,” she quickly sobered up after realizing she felt “disrespected.”
The anonymous Redditor u/grethathetittletattl shared the wedding drama in a post.
She explained that they were “a little over the max number” of guests they wanted in planning their invite list but decided to include as many as possible in the big celebration.
Although she felt she was being generous with her invitations for her July wedding, she was shocked when a guest left an additional note on their RSVP.
Despite the invite including spots for just two people, she explained that her fiance’s second cousin “threw us a curveball.”
Under the section for food accommodations, the second cousin tacked on a note.
“There will be 4 of us attending ceremony,” they wrote.
“IMO, it is clear on the invitation, the RSVP section of the website, and the FAQ section (pics 2 and 3) that only the people mentioned on the invitation are invited,” the displeased bride said.
Her cousin, it seemed, wanted to bring along her 16 and 17-year-old children, along with her husband.
“Did she reach out to us personally or to my fiancé’s family to ask if her children could be included? No!”
Although she initially found the response funny, she quickly realized she had to address the problem.
“I had a really good laugh when this email from Minted came in yesterday. For a few moments I found her audacity refreshingly hilarious,” she said.
“Then, I remembered that this was a REAL response and I felt disrespected that my fiance’s and my opinions were not considered.”
In a few comments, the bride explained she was in a tight spot because the ceremony and the reception were being held at the same location, with the same capacity limits.
“Everything is all at one place! For privacy reasons, I didn’t include the Save the Date Card, but it is all at one location that has a maximum capacity (which we are already at)…not to mention extra cost,” she said.
One commenter thought it might have been a misunderstanding thanks to the wording on the invitations.
“Their invitation states their names as a couple but then also asks for names of their guests. That’s kind of confusing. Why would a couple be given plus one?” they said.
The bride considered the scenario.
“You make some great points! We are going to reach out giving the benefit of the doubt that it was confusion/ misunderstanding,” she replied.
“Also we have changed the RSVP page to say ‘How would you like your name(s) to appear on your place card(s) at the reception?’ Hopefully, this clears things up on that end.”
Others offered a straightforward way to clear up any misconceptions about capacity.
“Dear, OP. Please get out ahead of this. I’d say something along the lines of: ‘Thank you for RSVP’ing, and I wanted to let you know that I saw your note,'” said one commenter.
“‘Unfortunately, our venue will not allow us additional guests. Hopefully, this will give you time to make arrangements, but if not we do understand, and you will be missed.”‘
