My wife has refused to have sex for the past 25 years and I’ve finally had enough
DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife has refused to have sex with me since the birth of our third baby 25 years ago.
I am 62 and she is 59. We have been married for almost 40 years and have three daughters.
It feels that she only wanted sex in order to have children.
She even told me as we arrived home from the hospital that she would not be having any more sex.
Every time I tried to talk to her, she would get up and walk out of the room.
I do love my wife and we get along as friends. I reluctantly accepted her decision but I miss feeling loved.
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I am retired now and would like to meet someone who wants me and will have sex with me. I don’t think my wife would care.
Would it be wrong to leave her and seek some happiness with someone new?
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: A healthy sex life has huge mental health benefits and brings couples closer.
You’ve been so understanding, she now thinks you are happy to accept her decision.
Tell your wife how miserable this is making you to the point where you are considering leaving the relationship. She needs to know what is at risk.
Consider sex and relationship therapy. The College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (cosrt.org.uk) can help find one.
My support pack Is She Not Keen On Sex? explains more.