I’m engaged, but my fiancé isn’t who I thought he was

DEAR DEIDRE: I’m engaged to be married and should feel on top of the world – but feel so lonely.

My partner and I have been together for ten years. We met when I returned from travelling around America and Australia in my twenties. I’m now 35.

I wasn’t looking for love but met my fiance, who is 40, at a quiz night when I was out with colleagues.

He seemed nice and it was an easy relationship to get into, but as time passed I realised how closed he was and we’d argue more and more.

There’s no conversation. I try to talk to him but get one-word answers unless he disagrees with me, then there’s a row.

We never have sex, not even on holiday. He once told me I’ve become too fat, which has broken me.

I long for children and worry I’m too old to start again and find someone who’d want a family with me.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your life needn’t be like this. If you feel you aren’t with the right guy, please don’t marry him and sign yourself up for more years of misery.

You deserve to be loved. You deserve to have somebody who respects you and who you want to raise a family with. It’s not too late for that.

My support pack Addictive Love may help you to see this relationship for what it is, and where to find emotional support so you have the strength to move on. Check out meetup.com to find new friendships too.

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