My wife quit her job to live a ‘rich’ life on my cash… she moans she doesn’t get enough, I don’t want her to blow it all
MONEY can ruin even the most harmonious marriages, with some couples squabbling over every penny.
Whilst most of us can only dream of being able to financially support our partners, one man has questioned whether he should do after his stay-at-home spouse asked for more money.
Rather than has this out with his other half though, the man turned to Reddit for advice.
Posting in the ‘Am I the A**hole subreddit’, he revealed that he’d initially been excited when his wife decided to pursue her passion project.
The Redditor explained, “My wife quit at the beginning of this year her relatively well paying job in video game development to pursue a writing career.
“I think she’s a great writer and wholeheartedly support her choice.”
Not long after she gave up the lucrative role though, crack began to appear in their relationship thanks to their wildly different childhoods.
Whilst his family grew up around communism and taught him the value of money from a young age, his spouse had a much more care-free life.
Think trust-fund baby.
“Her lifestyle and hobbies scream rich person, especially her gaming habits,” he added and told others that it hadn’t been an issue when they were both earning.
Instead, she tore through her savings and eventually came to her husband, hoping that the now-breadwinner would be able to make up the difference.
Rather than accepting that he couldn’t help though, the woman has been ‘passively joking’ that he is ‘financially controlling’ her – even in front of their two young kids.
Unable to brush off her cruel comment, he eventually turned to the group for support and finally judgment on the matter.
As the post began to go viral, most Reddit users sided with the unhappily wed man.
“Controlling would be telling her she CAN’T get a job if she wants more money. You’re not doing that,” complained one user.
They pointedly added: “She is free to pick up a side job if she wants more money.”
Others suggested using the unnamed woman’s tactics against her and urged the long-suffering husband to say something in front of the kids.
Another added: “Tell her, in front of the kids, ‘No- honey- you can get a job to earn spending money just like everyone else, I am not stopping you. There’s no control involved.’”
Though this piece of advice sounds like a recipe for a difficult divorce, others in the group also stated that the wife should have learnt to budget
A third wrote: “We haven’t hit April yet and she’s burned through her savings already, makes me think she needs to budget better honestly.”
Some in the thread suggest a bit more of a compromise, with his unhappy spouse finding a role which involves her passions.
A third wrote: “Encourage her to get a part-time job at a bookstore or library for fun money. Maybe something that is game industry but writing part-time from one of her existing contacts from her old job.”
They suggested: “Set a deadline for when she either makes money from her book or gets a job again and writes part-time. Six months from now? With a little work to have extra spending money.”
Whilst marriage is never is easy, we wonder if this woman knows how lucky she is?
