Woman reveals A4 printed letter from step-mum calling her an ‘obnoxious bridezilla’ for ‘crazy’ reason
WEDDINGS are arguably the biggest day in a person’s life, so it isn’t surprising that things can become a little tense before the ceremony.
One woman has revealed that her step-mother called her an ‘obnoxious bridezilla’ and sent her a ‘cruel’ letter because of her wedding rules.
Ironically, the bride-to-be’s rules weren’t that unusual.
Having had enough of the constant comments, the frustrated woman took to Facebook and vented about her step-mum online.
According to the bride, the trouble began when she started building her wedding website and included a Q&A section with a few rules.
As it was a special occasion, the Facebook user had asked guest to dress in semi-formal attire with no jeans or sneakers – a fairly standard request.
However, things soon escalated from there.
Sharing photos of her wedding website and the ‘cruel’ letter from her step-mother, the newlywed told the ‘That’s it, I’m wedding shaming’ group: “I noted that the event is semi formal so please no jeans and sneakers.
“I also listed some examples of what semi-formal consists of (I’m always googling the difference between semi-formal/formal/cocktail so I thought it would be helpful, not demanding).”
When asking her step-mother’s opinion on this, the older woman couldn’t help but give her brutally honest thoughts.
Continuing, the bride explained: “She didn’t like it so I removed the examples and kept it as semi formal, no jeans or sneakers please.
“She still didn’t like it and then started nit picking other things on my website such as when to arrive, we would prefer monetary gifts over a registry, etc.”
Despite most of her requests being fairly common, the argument ending with her step-mum calling her a ‘bridezilla’ in lengthy letter and screaming down the phone when she was asked for an apology.
As if that wasn’t bad enough, the older woman also spoke about the bride’s strained relationship with her biological mother in the letter.
“For some reason she thinks I owe her an apology??” complained the original poster.
She added: “It has now resulted in this letter, followed by both my [step] mom and dad screaming at me through the phone and cussing me out, as well as my fiancé when he told my dad to stop talking to me like that.”
Though the older woman did apologise for some of her bad behaviour, the anonymous bride felt it was too little too late.
“To me that’s not a sincere apology. Your own daughter should be worth more effort than a text especially after calling me a and an egotistical b***h,” she explained.
After uploading the ‘cruel’ texts and letters alongside her wedding Q&A, the bride has been praised in the comments for how she handled the situation.
One shocked commenter wrote: “These are all standard asks for a wedding, the fact that she things you’re ‘going on and on’ is WILD to me.”
Another agreed: “I could never imagine talking to my daughter this way. Ever. Calling her an egotistical b****? “
They added: “There’s no way you guys actually think this is a proportionate reaction, right? Is this really how you would treat your children?”
A third argued: “Literally it was just semiformal no tennis shoes/jeans and then it’s an important day being on time/early is expected.
“The preference for cash is just that a preference guests don’t have to follow they could go for a gift.”
However, others sided with the step-mum.
“Whatever happened to trusting people use common sense when going to a wedding? Put the dress code on the invite,” a fourth bluntly stated.
Meanwhile a fifth said: “I am so on the fence here, I think long winded demands from brides about their wedding and dress code is obnoxious, and wonder if maybe you were being a bit of a bridezilla.”
We wonder is the bride and her step-mother ever made up.
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Josie Griffiths, Deputy Digital Fabulous editor and bride-to-be shares her tips to cut the cost on your big day.
“There’s no getting around it, weddings are expensive, but there’s some easy ways to strip back the cost without your guests noticing.”
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Cut back on flowers
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Be ruthless with your guest list
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Do your own booze
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