My husband wants to name our baby after his ex – he says he has a good reason for it, but I think it’s strange
THE father-to-be is struggling to understand why his wife is against his idea of naming their future baby after his former lover.
The man was slammed online after revealing he wants to choose his late girlfriend’s name so he can “always have her in his life”.
The 34 year old expectant dad and his wife, 31, have been struggling to choose a suitable name for their baby, which is due in three months.
Sharing the problem on Reddit, he said in a post: “We don’t know the sex of the baby but we’ve started thinking about baby names.
“A couple of night ago we were suggesting names.
“I had a girlfriend for around six years before meeting my now wife.
“Unfortunately, she passed away and I was absolutely devastated.
“It’s still painful to think about and I always imagined naming a child in her memory.
“I also just love the name itself (Nancy).
“When I made the suggestion to my wife she seemed unimpressed.”
Although his wife tried to explain her reluctance, he failed to understand the problem.
“The way I see it is that Nancy was very important to me for a really long time,” he went on.
“She was my best friend and losing her was just a terrible thing.
“I feel as though it would be a great way to remember and honour a dear friend who I miss every day.
“My wife doesn’t share my views and honestly, it’s caused a lot of issues.
“I dropped it and said it was important we both agreed on the name but she’s still insisting it’s strange and she doesn’t understand why I suggested it.”
“I don’t know if she feels insecure or maybe the pregnancy is stressing her but she just won’t drop it.
“I honestly don’t see the issue whatsoever.”
Seeking advice on whether he is in the wrong, or his wife is overreacting, he was slammed with thousands of responses.
The majority were unsympathetic.
One Redditor reacted to his dilemma by saying: “This is your wife’s baby too and you want her to think about someone you intimately loved before you married her?
“Ouch. You can’t honestly think that wouldn’t be hurtful, do you? ”
Another added: “C’mon man, use your brain. A: she is feeling big and ugly at this stage.
“B: she is already probably insecure about a girl you obviously put on a pedestal in death (perfectly normal to do)
“C: she doesn’t want tp be reminded of the love you held for someone else.
“Fix it by apologising and never bring it up again.”
A user called mayfeelthis wrote: “You can’t tell your pregnant wife you miss your ex even now as you prepare to bring a child into the world.
“I’d be rethinking everything if I was your wife, I’m compassionate to your loss but so many years later you’d think your pregnant wife starts nudging into those bff and partnership loyalties.”
GlobalDragonfly1305 steamed in with: “How incredibly selfish and self-centered.
“I can’t even fathom the type of person who is oblivious enough to make this post.”
TemptingPenguin369 agreed: “If I were pregnant you know what would give me stress?
“Knowing that my baby daddy wanted to name our child after his ex!”
Another added: “Not how you intended it, but it comes across of ‘Hey wife you’re my second choice, so let’s name our kid after what would have been my first choice’.”