My best friend let me down when I needed her most

DEAR DEIDRE: My dad passed away and two weeks later, I had a massive argument with my best friend. I feel as if I’ve lost everything.

Dad was 78 and had a stroke which he never recovered from. It was such a shock. He looked after my mum who is 75 and she has a disability.

Now the responsibility has fallen to me to be her main carer. We have help coming in too.

I’m a woman of 49 and my best friend worked with me for years at a firm of accountants. She’s 45 and was great while my dad was in hospital, covering some of my work and checking in on me.

We had a big argument when I got back to the office. A client was sent somebody else’s tax affairs by mistake but she blamed it on me. I know it happened when Dad was rushed to hospital so I wasn’t there that day.

We’ve drawn a line under it, but now I don’t think I can trust her. I feel so low right now.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your sensitivity will be at an all-time high because you’ve lost your dad and you now have extra responsibilities on top of your job.

Your friend should have admitted her mistake but some people lack integrity. If your friendship is more important than this argument, put it behind you and tell her you want things back as they were.

My support packs called Rows With Friends and Coping With Bereavement will help.

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