When I was struggling after my husband’s betrayal, you helped me pick myself up

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I found out my husband had cheated on me with several escorts, I was devastated.

I’d believed us to be truly happy and didn’t suspect a thing. 

I’m 39 and he’s 40. We’d been married for 10 years and have two children.

He didn’t even apologise for his infidelities, instead blaming me for not being a good enough wife and not keeping him interested. He told me I’d let myself go.

We split up but I was finding it really hard to move on. Part of me still loved him and I felt I’d wasted years of my life on a horrible man who didn’t deserve me.

You reassured me that none of this was my fault. You sent me your support pack, Mend Your Broken Heart, and suggested counselling. 

Since then, I have started to pick myself up. I’ve moved with the children and made new friends.

I’ve begun counselling sessions, looking at events in my childhood and why I fell for a man like my ex.

I am so much stronger and I know the future looks brighter. Thank you, Deidre.

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DEIDRE SAYS: It takes time to get over a massive betrayal like this.

But you are doing all the right things to be happy again.