My sister has learning difficulties & is in an abusive relationship, I’m so worried
DEAR DEIDRE: I AM so worried for my sister’s safety since she met a horrible man almost a year ago through a dating site.
I’m her 41-year-old brother. My sister’s 39 and has learning difficulties.
All seemed well at first but a few months ago she started having less contact with the family.
She then disappeared with her boyfriend without telling us.
We had no idea where she was until my mum found out she was staying in a static caravan with no heating or water.
She eventually returned home with her partner but, on the rare times we see them, he seems to relish bossing her around.
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She has no phone so can’t communicate with us.
She only answers the door occasionally when my mum attempts to see her.
She’s started to look thin and unkempt. We have tried to intervene but her partner calls the police.
They have told us that as she is an adult we can’t take action against her partner.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: I share your concerns.
My support pack Abusive Partner? has information on organisations that can help.
Pass a copy on to her if you can do it safely.
Your sister’s partner is trying to isolate her to further control her.
It is vital you stay in touch but in a way that is safe for her. Go slowly.
She needs to know you are there to support and love her without judging her decisions.
Buy her a new phone so she can communicate with you in a way that doesn’t put her at further risk.