Anxiety is damaging my relationship with my children

DEAR DEIDRE: My sons have asked to live full time with their dad because they say they don’t want to have to put me to bed.

I’m 43 and they are 11 and 12.

Sometimes my sleeping pills knock me out so quickly I fall asleep on the sofa, but I struggle to sleep without them because I am so anxious.

My son broke down recently and said he wanted to live with his dad. But I love my children so much and would miss them.

I share custody of them with my ex-husband.

I’m also having a hard time with my boyfriend who neglects me.

He tells me to stay away whenever his children are visiting. I have to hide in the bedroom when they have dinner together. I understand they want to spend time alone but I wish they would include me every now and again.

I worry he’ll see that he’s better than me and finish our relationship. My life is a mess. What should I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: I’m concerned because your children need you.
You mention you have anxiety and it sounds like you might also be depressed.

You need to put your children’s safety first, so please consider letting them stay with your ex while you get the support you need. Please contact your GP urgently for help.

From what you’ve written your current relationship will not be helping your depression. Your boyfriend is treating you disrespectfully at best.

Please read my support pack Addictive Love for some insight into this damaging relationship.