My husband pays for my surgery, Chanel obsession & nearly all our bills – I only do council tax, trolls say he ‘owns’ me
A WOMAN has revealed how she and her husband of ten years split the bills leading to outage from strangers online.
Alexa took to social media to dish all on the couple’s finances and who pays for what.
The 36-year-old mum said the couple had been together for 13 years and had two children together.
While both of them work, Alexa and her partner don’t split the bills 50/50.
She went on to list the stuff her husband paid for in the relationship which included the essentials such as their mortgage, insurance and utility bills.
But that’s not all, despite Alexa also working her partner treated her to cars, holidays, her ‘Chanel obsession’ and even plastic surgery.
She previously revealed she had a gastric sleeve, tummy tuck, boob job, Botox, lip filler and veneers.
Alexa on the other hand paid for just council tax and the food shopping stating her ‘wonderful wardrobe choices’ and giving birth to their children let her off the hook.
“What’s his is mine and what’s mine is, well, mine.
“It’s a good thing I also bring humour to the marriage. I guess we can say I’m the personality hire,” she captioned the post.
The happy couple are perfectly content with their finances, but that didn’t stop total strangers judging them for it.
The video posted to her TikTok account @alexathienitou went viral with over 112k views and 3,400 likes.
People were quick to share their opinions in the comments and many were divided by the couple’s finances.
One person wrote: “Owned! You must be proud.”
“I mean, not really. I work. I have my own money, I just don’t pay bills,” replied Alexa.
Why I won’t get a shared bank account with my husband
As I ask my husband to transfer the £50 he owes me into my bank account, it strikes me that perhaps there’s little point, after all we are married now.
And yet we continue to diligently split the cost of the bills and mortgage, as well as alternating the nights we buy and cook dinner, in the same way we share our other chores.
We have no plans to stop, and I also have no plans to open a joint bank account with him.
Not because I’m worried or don’t trust him, but because I just don’t see the point.
I make my own money, so does he, and neither of us is in a position to need to prop the other up.
My parents have been married nearly 40 years and still don’t have a single joint account, so I’m sure that’s informed my decision.
As a woman, I think it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that your husband has to have a mega salary, pay for dinners out and buy you fancy presents.
Yes the gender pay gap is very real, but in a year and country where more women than men go to uni, and where both parents work in 74% of families, isn’t the idea your husband should fill the bill rather old fashioned?
My grandad used to pay his wife a monthly allowance, in the form of wads of cash she’d use to do the supermarket shop, buy cleaning essentials and yes, treat herself too.
But I never aspired to be a stay-at-home mum (not that I judge those who do) and I’m proud to have my own money.
Of course it’s not wholly ‘mine’ anymore, what’s mine is yours after all, but that doesn’t mean I need to open my bank account up.
We’re very open about money and never hesitate to fork out on the other’s behalf, but I think it’s quite nice to be able to decide what you spend your hard-earned cash on and where your savings go, without feeling like anyone’s watching over your shoulder.
Money spells independence, my days of penny-pinching while working on a local paper for a measly £16.5k a year, in London I might add, taught me that.
So when it comes to the boring stuff, we’ll continue to go halves, but it won’t come out of the same bank account.
By Josie Griffiths, deputy digital Fabulous editor
Another commented: “Nope this will never be me.”
“Another strong independent woman,” penned a third and
Alexa retorted: “I feel like you’d probably hate that I spent years earning more money but sacrificed my career to have his children too…”
But many congratulated Alexa on her situation with many wishing they were in the same boat.
Meanwhile a fourth said: “A very fair arrangement, I’m jealous.”
“I wish this for myself,” claimed a fifth.
Someone else added: “If he can look after you this way and you are both happy with this that’s brilliant. I’m sure there are many couples who wish they could afford this too.”
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