My boyfriend calls receptionist his ‘work wife’ and keeps me secret

DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend hasn’t told his “work wife” about me, and I’m hurt.

I’m 34, he’s 35. We met a year ago on a dating app.

He’s so close to the receptionist at his job that he refers to her as his “work wife”.

I didn’t mind until I realised he was hiding me from her.

He won’t tell me his work phone number, “forgot” to invite me to his Christmas party and has never let me meet him at the office.

She receives the office post so I’m thinking of sending Valentine’s flowers to his job to prove I exist.

DEIDRE SAYS: If I were you I wouldn’t waste money on flowers.

Have a frank chat. Tell him that you’d love to feel you’re really a part of his life and that means meeting his family and friends, including her.

If he’s cagey or refuses, ask why. If he shows no sign of wanting to show you off, you’d be wise to consider if this is the relationship for you.

My support pack, When Your Man Won’t Commit, should help.