I’m falling for my best mate’s girlfriend after passionate night of sex

DEAR DEIDRE: SEX with my best mate’s girlfriend, on a football club night away, was off the scale. Now I think I’m falling in love with her.

We are all volunteer coaches for a youth team. My mate and I coach the under-13 and 14s, respectively, and his girlfriend coaches the younger kids.

We are all friends and spend a lot of time together. He’s 27 and I’m 29. His girlfriend is 26.

She knows that her boyfriend is a serial cheat but she was always hoping he would “get it out of his system” and everything would be fine.

The thing is, he’s a player — he always has been and his reputation is known throughout the club.

Recently, my team and his girlfriend’s team were in a league where we went away for a tournament.

Some of the parents joined us but in the evening they all disappeared, leaving us two coaches playing some games and watching a film with the kids. It was a good night.

After the kids were in bed, we had a drink and then she blurted out that her friend had seen my mate kissing yet another girl in a club.

She became very emotional and my natural protective instinct kicked in. I tried to comfort her but soon became overcome with some very sexual feelings.

Within minutes we’d gone through to her bedroom and were hurriedly undressing each other.

We had a wild and passionate night. It was a moment of weakness I had, but should I confess to my mate about what I’ve done so that his relationship ends?

It would probably end my friendship with him too. But his girlfriend is wonderful and doesn’t deserve to be with somebody like him.

DEIDRE SAYS: Confessing all would relieve you of the burden of guilt but bring misery to your cheating friend, and now his cheating girlfriend too.

Honesty is often the best policy but, if telling all brings upset, why do it?

It’s doubtful his girlfriend will say anything to him.

If it looks as if she’s still going to stick with him, that is her decision but it isn’t going to help you.

Instead, get out with other friends and find somebody who is free to have a relationship with you.

My support pack, Finding The Love Of Your Life, is full of good tips to help you to find that special person.