Dear Abby: My fiancee was a prostitute in college

Rumor had it that she moonlighted as a stripper our senior year, but I always blew it off as false.

Fast-forward 12 years: I ran into her recently, and we decided to have dinner.

A few months went by and I mentioned the rumors.

The problem with “falling in love” (what I define as infatuation) is that you don’t yet know who the person is.

[...] of how your fiancee financed her education, she deserves respect for being honest with you.

Remember, I live in Los Angeles, and in this town, her revelation wouldn’t necessarily be a deal-breaker.

About a week after we met, he came out to a group of our mutual friends (me included) as gay.

Once I found out Ryan was gay, the rational and practical part of me took over and squashed the crush I had on him in the beginning.

If spending time around him becomes too painful, you may have to put some distance between the two of you until you regain your emotional balance.