Dear Abby: I don’t want to go to my siblings’ funerals

Dear Abby: I’ve been estranged from my three siblings, their spouses and their families for 35 years — my choice. There has been no correspondence, and I have seen them only at our parents’ funerals. Since we are all in our 80s, I anticipate there will be funerals for us in the next decade. [...] I’m considering not attending their funerals or those of their spouses. [...] I still remember what caused my estrangement and I just don’t want to see them. People attend funerals to pay their respects to the deceased and/or comfort the family who has suffered the loss. [...] if the babysitting is interfering with your marriage, then you’re complaining to the wrong woman, and the two of you need to work out a compromise on which you can both agree. Apparently, people have forgotten the concept of “personal space.” How can I tell someone — without sounding rude — to please not touch me? If someone reaches out to pet you, smile, step back and say, “I’d prefer you not do that.”