Dear Abby: Friend wants to get romantic, but I’m gay

If she calls and I don’t answer, she still shows up at my door saying she called.

Because she is a “dear friend,” the first would be to make an exception in Samantha’s case and level with her about the fact that you’re homosexual and have no interest in a close relationship with any woman because you relate better to men.

During this truth session you should also say that her demonstrations of affection and apparent need for emotional and physical closeness make you uncomfortable.

(It’s surprising she hasn’t picked up on it by now because of your body language.) The alternative is to end this friendship without giving her an explanation.

The year I graduated from high school I witnessed a horrific car accident that killed five of my classmates.

[...] I have been involved in two accidents (I was in the passenger seat both times) and a number of close calls.

Is there anything I can do to help my anxiety?

Consult your physician and ask for a referral to a psychologist who specializes in patients who suffer from phobias.