Dear Abby: I want him to leave, but he owns the house

Despite our almost 15-year age difference, I never in a million years thought he would do something like this.

A few months ago, he started disappearing again.

At that point I told him he needed to leave and remove his belongings from the house.

[...] he did buy a home during our marriage.

Where does that leave me?

Because divorce laws vary from state to state, go online to www.womenslaw.org and search for “divorce in Pennsylvania.”

When my husband notices that I look at women, I’m honest and tell him what I admire about a particular woman.

Is it all right for me to fantasize when I’m intimate with him that he’s a woman?

[...] you’re right that many people besides yourself fantasize about others (of both sexes) during sex.

Because you don’t act on your fantasies, relax and enjoy them, and stop being hard on yourself.