Dear Abby: I don’t want to retire and move; husband does

Abby, all I can think about is how I will be forced to start all over with a new church, new doctors, new friends, etc. All I can think about is having to sell our home, buy another one, learn a new area, make friends, find a new church. If you do that, you might find that the “natives” are friendly and the community is congenial. [...] if that’s not the case, it could help you to avoid making a costly mistake. (She’s the one who left the marriage.) However, she keeps many pictures of her ex-husband on her Facebook page. A picture is worth a thousand words, and what it shows those who see hers is that she hasn’t emotionally let go of her ex-husband. [...] if men date her after looking at her Facebook page and seeing his pictures posted there, it’s working for her, and I can’t offer a criticism. Because you can’t stop her, I suggest you accept it.