My ex only wanted me for sex and was cheating on me with my mum’s best pal
DEAR DEIDRE: IT turns out my ex was just using me for sex – and he was also cheating on me the whole time as the toy boy of my mum’s friend.
The worst part is he’s convinced Mum’s mate that I’ve lied about our relationship.
She believes his version that I grabbed him for a kiss and he was too shocked to avoid me.
Mum doesn’t want to get involved so is keeping out of it.
So I am being called a liar and feel so low.
I am 29 and my ex is 40. I moved away from home years ago but was planning to go back at Christmas. Now I’m dreading it.
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My ex and I were together for six months after meeting on a night out when I was back in my home town.
It was great at first. He would regularly visit me in the city I now live in and we’d have wild nights out.
But soon things became toxic. He began letting me down, putting off our meetings at the last minute.
Then he’d apologise, telling me how much he loved me, but it wasn’t a good time.
The final straw came when he tried to force himself on me one night.
After that, I ended things.
It was only after I’d finished with him that I learned he had been two-timing me all along.
He never wanted me to post photos of him, now I understand why.
One weekend when I was back home, I showed Mum his picture.
She was horrified and blurted out that he was her friend’s boyfriend.
Next her friend contacted me, demanding proof of our relationship.
I sent her photos and texts but she responded saying she didn’t believe me and that I had faked the proof.
They have told me it was just a kiss and I need to “deal with it” and move on.
Apparently they are getting married and there is even talk about them having children.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve had a lucky escape. This man is abusive and, as dreadful as this is, at least you know the truth.
He is not the person you thought you fell in love with.
Shed your tears over him but make a determined effort to move on.
You are still young and this frees you to meet someone who can offer 100 per cent commitment.
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