Deidre supported us after our miscarriage

DEAR DEIDRE: I wrote to you when my girlfriend and I were distraught after losing our baby to miscarriage.

I’m 37 and she’s 32.

For years we had been trying to conceive with no luck, until one day we finally saw those two lines on the test.

We were over the moon until my girlfriend unexpectedly lost the baby four months in.

This left us heartbroken and we didn’t know how to cope.

While we were desperate to try again, my anxiety kept getting the better of me and I was struggling to maintain an erection.

You were so kind and reassuring when I emailed, and sent your support pack Want To Have A Baby? that had loads of useful suggestions on how to maximise our ­chances of conceiving.

You also told me to relax and to enjoy our lovemaking, instead of making it a means to an end.

You also sent me your Miscarriage support pack and recommended the Miscarriage Association’s booklet (miscarriageassociation.org.uk).

My girlfriend is now pregnant again and this time everything is going well.

Your support made such a difference to me.

I can’t thank you enough.

DEIDRE SAYS: I am so pleased my advice was helpful and I’m delighted for you both that you’re expecting. Best of luck with everything.

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