Why ‘wholesome’ Emily Ratajkowski is so many men’s dream girlfriend but a bad match for Pete Davidson, expert reveals
EMILY Ratajkowski has earned “dream girlfriend” status from millions of male admirers — one look at her and it’s no surprise why.
But the 31-year-old actress and model’s appeal is more than just her gorgeous face and figure, a relationship expert reveals — and while that may help her and Pete Davidson fall for each other fast, it doesn’t mean they’re a good match in the long term.
From the moment she appeared on the scene in Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines music video, Emily’s been the cause of quite a lot of male drooling.
But there are plenty of Hollywood actresses, pop stars and supermodels who are exceptionally beautiful, so what makes Emily such a standout?
“She has a very grounded and authentic quality to her, eschewing a lot of the shallowness and public excesses of other stars, especially those that began their careers so early,” Jo Hemmings, a behavioral psychologist and relationship expert, told The U.S. Sun.
“Her recent bestselling book, My Body, is deeply honest, whip-smart in its observation and analysis, raw, and intelligent.
“Celebrity autobiographies can over-skim the surface or be written by a sycophantic ghostwriter to play up their careers, but this feels incredibly genuine.”
Emily also seems to have a “high level of self-awareness and a degree of vulnerability, yet it’s matched by a warm and assertive confidence.
“In spite of her beauty and stellar career, she still appears wholesome — a touch of the girl next door.”
Jo also points out that Emily has made it clear how much she loves sex, citing a quote from the star’s 2017 essay in Lenny Letter: “To me, ‘sexy’ is a kind of beauty, a kind of self-expression, one that is to be celebrated.”
Plus, Jo adds: “She is a feminist who gets her point over without presenting it at the expense of men.”
According to Emily, the “ideal feminist world shouldn’t be one where women suppress their human instincts for attention and desire. We shouldn’t be weighed down with the responsibility of explaining our every move. We shouldn’t have to apologize for wanting attention, either. We don’t owe anyone an explanation.”
Jo notes that the star has a reputation for being down-to-earth, reportedly doing her own hair and make-up.
She eats more than just salad, too, and has talked about growing up eating street tacos and burritos.
“In other words, she has both beauty and brains, and is more relatable than the vast majority of other supermodels or actors,” she explains.
“Men can see her as ideal girlfriend and wife material — almost flawless (though she’d be the first to admit she’s not in her rather lovely self-deprecating way) in looks and personality.”
In Myers-Briggs personality types, Jo says Emily would be identified as an ISFP (introverted, sensing, feeling, perceiving) personality type.
“She takes pleasure in sensuality, likes an uncomplicated life, and is naturally reserved, introspective and kind.
“Gentle and thoughtful, ISFP’s have few negative characteristics, although they can be overly laid back and their desire for freedom and independence may make them challenging within a demanding or possessive relationship.”
But with all these men flocking to her, who is Emily most likely to seek out in a partner?
There are plenty of other stars who are ISFPs like her — Britney Spears, Lady Gaga, and Kendall Jenner to name a few — and “none of their romantic attachments have been easy,” Jo says.
Jo says Emily will be attracted to “people who express themselves easily” and “are not afraid to show their feelings.”
She’ll also be drawn to “people who may have a little mystery about them” whom she can get to open up.
“Always curious, their ideal personality type is someone who is easy-going, understanding, authentic, and who won’t put any undue pressure on them.”
Relationships will work out best for her if she teams up with an ENFJ (extraverted, iNtutive, feeling, judging) or an ESFJ (extraverted, sensing, feeling, judging), Jo says.
“Interestingly Pete Davidson is neither of these types, being an ENFP (extraverted, iNtutive, feeling, perceiving) and someone who may turn out to overthink or be a little hypersensitive for the more chilled Emily.”
So while that may mean incompatibility in the long haul, it may not stop Emily from falling fast, a likely pattern for her.
“She is spontaneous and lives in the moment, so she is likely to fall in love easily, fast and hard,” Jo says.
“This free spirit may encourage her to marry someone who feels right for the moment, but she might need to be more considerate if she is looking for an enduring relationship.”